Monday, June 17, 2019

For the grown ups: How to Deal with Mean People.

1. You cannot control their meanness, but you can control how you react. Try to respond by being nice to them.
2. Compassion. It's hard but do try and have compassion towards the person behaving in a mean way. They might be dealing with difficult issues in their life. 
3. Sometimes the mean person does not respond to your compassion. Make it clear that you will not be walked over. 
4. Notice how the person is making you feel. Are they behaving this way just with you, or with others too? 
5. Take care of yourself. If you are hurt, do something that makes you feel better. 
6. Use breathing techniques to calm yourself down. 
7.Speak with the other person. Tell them how you are feeling. Offer a solution.
8. Escalate the problem to somebody older, or higher in position than yourself or the person who is hurting you. 
9. If nothing works, treat the other person civilly, but reduce the amount of time you have to spend with them.
10. Avoid the person when possible. If you have to spend time with that person, always have an exit plan. While you are in their presence, practice patience and compassion.
11. Find a group of kind, non-gossiping, fun people to spend your time with. The world is full of good people, surround yourself in light. 

Friday, May 31, 2019

We are all different

We are all different. 
What makes us different
Our hair colour, our eye colour, our skin colour, our height, type of family, the shape of our bodies, the things we like. 
We also have qualities that make us special. 
Things that we have that no one else has. 
Things we can do that no one else can do.

Some people bully others for being different.
They do this because they feel bad about themselves, maybe they don't have friends, or they feel they are not very good at doing things. 

People might bully over many things such as 
gender, race and disability. 

We all have the right to be happy. 
We all have the right to feel safe. 
We also have the responsibility to be good people, to do good things and to be kind to everybody. 





Friday, May 24, 2019

I can concentrate

Do you ever find concentrating hard? 

Well, concentration is hard. To concentrate well you need to use many different parts of your body. 

Concentration also needs practise, just like a muscle you train daily.

Do one thing at a time. 

You can't do your homework while you are eating and watching TV at the same time!

Make sure your work-space is clear from clutter. 
This is not a good place to study. 


This is a good place to study. 

Give yourself frequent breaks. 
Use a timer. Take a ten minute break and go back to your work.

Is your HW load too big? Break it down into small tasks. 
Small task, done. Small task, done. Small task, done. 
Soon you will reach your goal.

Give yourself time to sit in silence. 
 
Sit anywhere, with your back straight. 
Choose two of these. 
Notice any smells. 
Notice how your clothes feel. 
Notice the taste inside your mouth. 
Notice the colours and patterns you see when your eyes are closed. 
Listen to the sounds of your body.
Can you feel your heart? Can you hear yourself breathe? 
Breathe in and out slowly. 
Open your eyes. 
Do the same again tomorrow. 



Friday, May 17, 2019

Good Manners

How do you like to be treated? 
Do you like people respecting you? 
Do you like people treating you with kindness? 

Other people would like the same from you too. 
We treat others how we would like to be treated. 
This is The Golden Rule. 

Good manners help us practise The Golden Rule. 

Here are some good manners. 


Wednesday, May 8, 2019

Do not bottle up!

Imagine you are a bottle of cola

Whenever something annoying or bad happens to you,  you are given a shake. 


A friend stops speaking to me - Shake!

I forget to put on my PE kit this morning - Shake!

My grandmother is very sick - Shake!

My dad wants to give our pet dog away - Shake!

I left my homework copybooks at home - Shake!

Dinner is the food I don't like most - Shake!

I accidentally spill a glass of milk on my favourite football t-shirt! - Shake!

The next day, my best friend accidentally hits me. 

BOOM! Explosion!

I scream, yell and cry. 

It was the last straw. 

The bottle of cola exploded. 



That is what usually happens when we bottle up. 

How not to explode? Well, you have to do things to make the bubbles go down after each shake. 

Talk to someone, write about it, do things that calm you down or make you feel happy, fix the problem if you can. 

Whatever you do, do not bottle up. 

Monday, April 29, 2019

You can't always get what you want

Sometimes we ask grown ups to give us something and the answer is NO. 

Our adults have very good reasons why they say NO to us. 

Sometimes it could be because the thing we ask for is too expensive. 

Mum can you buy me a PlayStation 4? 

NO!

Sometimes it could be because the thing is not good for us. 

Mum can you buy me an 18+ computer game? 

NO!

Sometimes it could be because it goes against the values and laws of our society.

Mum can I sit on your lap while you drive? 

No, you can't. 

Sometimes adults explain to us why they say no, and sometimes they don't. 

You can't always get what you want. 
You will not always get what you want. 
You shouldn't always get what you want. 

Being told NO isn't always fun. 

You have to find ways to handle being told NO. 

You can throw a tantrum, yell at the top of your voice and call your grown ups names. Some grown- ups give in to tantrums, but they are not doing you any good by doing so. 
Grown-ups learn self-respect when they say no and mean it. 


Many grown-ups will not give in because they want to raise you as a good person. 
You accept that life is made from being told yes and no for different things, at different times, for different reasons. 
And that's OK.  




Friday, April 19, 2019

Respect

Respect is treating other people the way you would like to be treated. 
Many people in the world call this 'The Golden Rule'.
When teaching respect, it is important to teach children that respect is speaking nicely, listening, being  honest, being responsible, honest, helpful and polite
The most important thing, though, is to model respect

Adults must show respect to each other so that children will know what it feels like to be around people who respect each other. 
Respect is not only shown to other people but also to the environment, animals, other people's property. 
Here is what we do in our respect lesson.


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